you can't just "give him back."
Mother Wants to 'Unadopt' Child
This article hurts my heart. Seriously, I was under the impression that when a child is adopted, he becomes your child, through everything. Unless I was very much mistaken, I believed that adoption was forever. So here's this child who obviously loves his "mother" and who is very, very sick, being "sent back." He's sick. He is asking to be put on suicide watch. He knows something is wrong, he told her something was wrong. He told her about the voices. He acted out, and she punished him, but he didn't stop acting out. He pulled out his own hair and her course of action was to shave it off? He ran away from school multiple times, and she thought a spanking would cure it. Is she stupid? I'm sorry that they "withheld" information from her, but, you know, she could've asked for the records any time. It's not his fault she didn't take the time to educate herself.
Yes, I understand that he's fucked up some people's lives and he's done some bad shit, but my god, work with him. Get him some help. I'm sorry to say it, but in most (serious) cases, tough love doesn't work. If he had cancer or something she would applaud him for being so brave. The article is written with a bias toward the mother. It's written in a tone that's saying, "The mentally ill are the enemy." I don't appreciate it one bit. This really and truly breaks my heart. She made the decision to adopt him. As a foster parent, she must've known that you have the right to acquire all the child's medical records when you adopt him. He came into her home taking medication for hyperactivity. She knew he was troubled when she adopted him. I don't think that he would be any different if he was her biological child. Having bipolar disorder with psychotic episodes will not be "cured" by therapy and tough love. If he was her biological child, would she have abandoned him? Would she have "thrown him away"?
The most heartbreaking thing, I think, is the end of the article.
"Do you miss me?" she remembers asking.
This article hurts my heart. Seriously, I was under the impression that when a child is adopted, he becomes your child, through everything. Unless I was very much mistaken, I believed that adoption was forever. So here's this child who obviously loves his "mother" and who is very, very sick, being "sent back." He's sick. He is asking to be put on suicide watch. He knows something is wrong, he told her something was wrong. He told her about the voices. He acted out, and she punished him, but he didn't stop acting out. He pulled out his own hair and her course of action was to shave it off? He ran away from school multiple times, and she thought a spanking would cure it. Is she stupid? I'm sorry that they "withheld" information from her, but, you know, she could've asked for the records any time. It's not his fault she didn't take the time to educate herself.
Yes, I understand that he's fucked up some people's lives and he's done some bad shit, but my god, work with him. Get him some help. I'm sorry to say it, but in most (serious) cases, tough love doesn't work. If he had cancer or something she would applaud him for being so brave. The article is written with a bias toward the mother. It's written in a tone that's saying, "The mentally ill are the enemy." I don't appreciate it one bit. This really and truly breaks my heart. She made the decision to adopt him. As a foster parent, she must've known that you have the right to acquire all the child's medical records when you adopt him. He came into her home taking medication for hyperactivity. She knew he was troubled when she adopted him. I don't think that he would be any different if he was her biological child. Having bipolar disorder with psychotic episodes will not be "cured" by therapy and tough love. If he was her biological child, would she have abandoned him? Would she have "thrown him away"?
The most heartbreaking thing, I think, is the end of the article.
"Do you miss me?" she remembers asking.
"Yes," he said.
Just because a person is sick doesn't mean they don't deserve love and care like everyone else. Shame on her for making the decision to adopt him, and then giving him back when things got rough. Yet he's not angry at her. She doesn't deserve that kind of devotion. (Katee)
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